Many clients describe feeling stuck in relationships, work, or life. We frequently trap ourselves in torment when we approach situations intending to see, hear and feel what we anticipate occurring. Our tendency to forget the contradictions and remember the confirming experiences, maintaining our fixed thinking and distress. Failing to adopt an open mind prevents authentic connection by typecasting people and behaviours.

To avoid this, we must approach old triggers with new eyes that is curiously, with the aim to understand more and predict less. This approach may lead to an unfavourable outcome. However, the benefit is an honest connection, which builds trust, acceptance, and self-esteem in the long run