Radical acceptance is a concept rooted in dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that involves fully accepting reality, even when it is difficult or painful, without judgment or resistance. It’s about acknowledging what is, rather than fighting against it. Here’s how you can practice it:

Firstly, it is important to recognise and accept the facts of the situation as they are, without trying to change them or deny them. Once there is an acknowledgement of the reality, the process of releasing any judgments you may hold about the situation, yourself, or others involved, is necessary. For example, “I am an idiot” or “It’s not fair”. Judgment can create additional suffering and resistance. This process of letting go of judgment may be challenging.

 However, mindfully being present in the moment and observing your thoughts and emotions without getting caught up in them can help you stay grounded and accept reality, as it is. Just notice that you called yourself an “idiot” without adding fuel to the thought, let it pass as you would any passing object.

Consequently, staying present allows the opportunity to be kind and compassionate toward yourself, especially in difficult situations. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend in pain.

Self-compassion makes space for dealing with those aspects of the situation that can be changed and taking the steps to improve the situation within these limits.

 If you’re struggling to accept a difficult reality, seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Talking about your feelings can help you process them and move toward acceptance.
Remember, radical acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like or agree with the situation. It’s about acknowledging reality and finding peace within yourself despite the circumstances.